Intentions: They’re More Than You Think

Lately I’ve been thinking about the phrase, “the road to hell is paved with good intentions” and how much I couldn’t disagree with it more. I’m guessing it’s intended meaning is something along the lines of, actions speak louder than words. But what I feel isn’t being accounted for is the connection between the inaction and the circumstances surrounding the words of intent and the inaction.

Actions or Intentions, Which Is More Important?

Actions are indeed an important part of the equation, but it’s not the only part. More so, I feel that intentions are what actions are born from. I feel that when our intentions are in line with our actions, then we are being motivated from a place of integrity. Where our bodies are carrying out the deeds of our ideas. And there’s a lot to be said for acting from a place of wholeness. The focus of your intentions aligning with what you say you will do.

Setting Intentions

I think one of the reasons I disagree so strongly with the above phrase, has a lot to do with my yoga practice. If you’ve read my post on “self care” you’ll know that yoga has become an integral part of my self-care routine. I practice at home now, but when I started my practice, I went to a studio. The instructor would usually start the class with the phrase, “set an intention for tonight’s practice”, and to be honest, I never did.

I thought it seemed silly at the time. “What do intentions have to do with yoga and my body” is how I initially saw them. But as my practice developed and my relationship to myself became stronger, I realized that intentions are really the base of all actions. Another way of putting it, you can have an intention without an action, but not an action without an intention. And the more you repeat your intention, the stronger it gets. Just like working out a muscle. Your intentions are the “muscles” behind your actions, or what you value. And when practiced often enough, they become your character.

If your intention is to spend your time in front of a screen playing games, then you will develop the characteristic of lethargy. This is one I’m very familiar with. But maybe it’s not always our intention to get stuck behind the screen. Maybe we get wrapped up in a distraction (i.e. video games), to avoid the difficult work that may be wound around our intended actions. If that’s the case, what’s making it so difficult to execute? To step away from our distractions and realize our intentions.

What’s Stopping Us From Acting?

From my experience, if intention is the birth of action and if we’re unable to follow through with our intended actions, self doubt and fear are usually at the heart of our stalling. So if you have an intention already set, all you need to do is to get over the fear and self doubt. Easier said than done, right. So how do we get over these stumbling blocks that are in the way of us reaching our intended goals? I’m not sure that we ever really leave them behind. Or get rid of them all together. But we can find ways of responding to them that makes it easier for them to be in the picture. And it starts with a little kindness.

Fear and Doubt

Fear and self doubt are two feelings that are demonized all too often. And we can use them as a way to avoid our intentions. For example, if you’re trying to mend a relationship. The work of going through the difficult emotions with another can feel overwhelming. You may doubt that the relationship is even unsalvageable. Or fear that the same breach of trust may happen again.

This is precisely where treating our fear of being hurt again and the doubt of not being up to the challenge of mending the relationship with kindness, will soften the difficult emotions and make space for confidence and strength to grow. So when we treat difficult emotions with compassion, we are sending the message that, “we’re here, we care” to ourselves. Which over time, builds up our resilience to what we find difficult to be with a well as our compassion.

Another way of looking at it is: good intentions, fostered with gentle and kind compassion, leads to compassionate actions. This quote sums up my intention, “An intention is intended to flow through our every word, thought and deed“- Emma Newlyn. What I like about this quote is, that it illustrates how our intentions are woven around our deeds, actions and words. And over time, they make up the fabric of our character. It also shows how connected everything is. Words, thoughts and actions, all just extensions of how we are in the world.

Keep Practicing

The takeaway? Compassion, good intentions and lots of practice. And that’s not to say that we avoid the difficult emotions by covering them over with kind thoughts. Rather it’s to respect the emotions that are arising, while staying strong in who we are. From a place of love and kindness. To be conscious enough to act from a place of kindness and not from the difficult emotions.

And of course it’s not easy. But hey, few things worth the effort in life usually are. The good news is, it does get easier with practice. This is where I leave you my friends. I hope you are having a safe and joyful holiday season. Considering our collective circumstances. So be well, be safe and until next time, peace : ]

Image Credits: “Woven” by arbyreed is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

Author: nolabelsliving

Social worker by day, blogger by night. I have a lot of lived experience which is why I started my blog. I was not given any direction when I started out on my journey, but have been blessed with some amazing support and guidance along the way. Just want to give back a little of what I've received : )

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